I have seen people who are magicians with words. They play around with words, they can persuade anyone and they can impress people with their conversationalist power. They boast with confidence while communicating with small or large group of people. But being an introvert, there is a lack of interest in me, of speaking all the time. It has several reasons. But most highlighting are the following:
Speaking comes from inside: The more you think, the more you talk to your inner self i.e. thinking aloud and intense. The conversation is spectacular but without words. This kind of conversations can be recreated in the outside world very rarely with people. There seems to be no motive in speaking sometimes to someone. The speaking or conversation begins after taking consent from the inner world. And when this permission is denied, sorry, no interest or intention to stretch the conversations or even initiate most of the time.
Conversation topics are deep: People don’t want to go deeper in the conversation. That promotes superficiality i.e. on the surface. We, introverts don’t like superficial talks. We want to dig the surface and go deep inside the conversations. Unfortunately, no one wants to dive deep into those topics. We have selective topics, which are mostly not liked by the people. So, we don’t open are mouths in such gatherings.
Intellectual Talking: Our mind and soul prosper and grow, including intellect into our conversations. We won’t settle for less. We need to have healthy, intellectual talking. We won’t subdue in front of downgraded conversations. We cannot immerse in such talking, which destroys our self dignity, self respect. Intellectual conversations makes us grow, gives more satisfaction post conversations.
Cannot talk for the sake of talking: Some people just talk for the urge of talking. They don’t have motive, or any considerations for the other person. They want to talk about themselves. The talking between strangers met in a bus or train could be an instance. People try to initiate conversation to pass their long journey. I like to sit on window seat and look out for the green fields and different structures, houses. I can look endlessly outside and think a lot based on my observations.
Don’t want to open up: Once you open up with people, they try to take you for granted all the time. That is the thing I hate a lot. I have mood swings. I will not be interested in talking to you in the morning, because of some work which I need to complete. And in the evening I will be ready to go with you on tea and talk about fun things. But really trusting people, that they will not take advantage of our opening up, is tough. Because I cannot be the same person every time.
Disinterest of people: And finally, people don’t want to listen, but talk. There is a lack of good listening skills in people. They take talking as some kind of competition. They want to dominate you and your thinking by giving talks. They will cut you over while you are presenting some words of your own. This happened to me when I was a kid. And this is one of the big reason I don’t want to speak, when nobody gives a damn.